When Women Become Rental Property
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During a social networking event, I launched into a conversation about the horrors of human trafficking with a gentleman I barely knew. Looking back, I realize I could have discussed a lighter topic at happy hour, but some days this work is all-consuming.
I vividly remember how the color drained from his face as I told him about the “seasoning” process used by pimps and victimizers who beat, rape, starve, burn and abuse trafficked women until they lose hope of escaping their new living hell.
The relational value of property
After the event, I thought more about our conversation and a remark about how the women are “treated worse than dogs,” and I considered why that was.
When you have a dog, you have a sense of ownership. That is YOUR dog. You’re invested in its well being. You want it to stay healthy because you love it, and because if it falls ill, you’ll have vet bills, and down time as well.
Similarly, when you own a car, you have a sense of ownership about that car. You want it to stay clean, to run well and last as long as possible, in part because you’re quite fond of it, but also because you’re responsible for it when something goes wrong. Most people don’t choose to abuse their own dogs or damage their own cars intentionally. But that is most people.
Then, there are those who have very little respect for beings or things, especially when they belong to someone else. These are the people who rent a home and are fine with destroying the carpet or letting it fall into disrepair, because it’s someone else’s problem. They abuse animals they find on the street or trash a rental car. Truth be told, we might all be a little guilty of not treating rental or borrowed property with the same level of care as something we owned. For instance, you might not have fretted about the condition you left a hotel room versus a home you own.
How society views women
In many parts of the world, the value of a woman is directly related to her relationship to a man. First, her father, then her husband, and sometimes, even her son. Everyone is concerned about keeping her honor intact so that she is not ostracized by society. In a recent article, I remember reading, “If a woman belongs to no man, she belongs to all men.” This mentality is what drives society to see women as property or not deserving of respect. A woman is therefore vulnerable to human trafficking if she is not attached to a man who society sees as her protector. She becomes someone’s rental property.
Sustainable living with dignified employment
As a result, women need access to opportunities to be financially independent and empowered to take care of themselves. Dignified employment prevents exploitation by providing a good wage, safe workplace, life skills, job training, and dignity from supporting oneself. In this way, a woman can provide for herself even if she loses the man that society sees as responsible for her physical and financial well-being.
Made for Freedom exists to support women rescued from sexual exploitation as well as those coming out of marginalized situations. We partner with centers in India and numerous countries around the world that provide life skills, job training and dignified employment to truly empower women.
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